Healing After a Breakup: A Path for Highly Sensitive Hearts

A breakup after just a few weeks, eight and a half years, or even longer is a real rupture – not just on the outside, but deep on the emotional and soul level. We mourn many things, even when we know the decision is ultimately better for us. And as a highly sensitive woman, you likely experience everything more intensely, more finely, and more openly. It’s no wonder you feel empty and exhausted. And yes – healing takes time. But I hear you when you say: “I know that, but it still frustrates me.”

The hard truth? There is no shortcut. The best way out of the swamp is through it. That’s the "bad" news. The good news is: you don’t have to go through it alone. Let me walk with you – in my mentoring program, I’ll support you for two months with sessions, exercises, and Shiatsu to help bring you back to your center so you can realign your life with renewed strength.In the meantime, here are a few impulses that may help you begin the healing process – without suppressing your emotions – and slowly re-enter life with more vitality:

1. Your Emotions Aren't Obstacles – They're Your Path

As an HSP, you process deeply through feeling. That’s not a flaw – that is your system. Don’t try to "function" faster than your heart can heal. Feeling deeply isn’t weakness – it’s depth. And depth needs space.👉 Try giving yourself a dedicated emotional window every day: 20 minutes where you simply feel, write, cry, rage, or just be. After that: a pause. No overthinking. No spiraling. Even healing benefits from structure.

2. Small Joys Instead of Big Euphoria

Your passion for projects will return – but perhaps not in its old form. Maybe it starts now in small, gentle moments. Keep the threshold low:

• "Today I’ll write a few beautiful lines. Maybe it becomes a post, maybe not."
• "I’ll sit in the sun for 15 minutes with a cup of tea. And breathe."
  Life often comes back through the side door, not the front entrance.

3. Body & Energy Work

In Shiatsu, we work with Qi, touch, and energy. That’s now your toolkit – for yourself:

• Shiatsu on your belly, heart, or chest
• Liver 3, Heart 7, Spleen 6 – gentle acupressure points
• Moxa or foot baths for grounding and warmth
• Your favorite oil with a heart application
  You don’t need more discipline right now – you need more self-tenderness.

4. A Spiritual Perspective: Goodbye as Initiation

A relationship is a cycle. And every ending is the beginning of a new one. In many traditions, heartbreak is not seen as failure – but as opening. Maybe you ask:

"What is ready to be born in me now, precisely because something has ended?"

You don’t need the answer right away. The question alone opens space for renewal.

5. Exhaustion: Accept It, Don’t Ignore It

That emptiness you feel – it’s not wrong. It may be part of your healing. When a vessel is empty, it becomes receptive again. And sometimes, the best way to regain strength is: doing nothing, without guilt.When you’re ready to return to life, move like a dancer: shift your weight first, then move. Don’t leap. Just shift. Look at a project. Allow a smile. Think a new thought. That’s enough for now.

Mini Ritual: Opening the Heart & Letting Go

Duration: 10–15 minutes

Purpose: Create space for grief – and for new life energy

Place: A quiet, safe spot – with a candle, a comforting scent (like rose, neroli, or sandalwood), maybe a warm drink. Pure cacao is especially heart-healing – especially in a small, respectful cacao ceremony.

▪ Step 1: Create Space

Light a candle.

Breathe deeply three times into your chest – in through your nose, out through your mouth.

Say aloud or inwardly:

"I’m ready to feel my heart. Everything that’s here is allowed to be here."

▪ Step 2: Establish Body Contact

Place one hand on your heart, the other on your lower belly (Dantian).

Feel the warmth. Let your breath flow into your hands.

Say:

"I carry pain within me – and I carry love. Both are welcome here."

▪ Step 3: Symbolic Release

Imagine holding a small, dark stone in your hand – your sadness, anger, or disappointment.

Slowly open your hand.

Say:

"I’m not banishing you – but I’m letting you flow. You may leave when you're ready."

If you wish, you can place an actual stone outside – or write something down and burn/bury/let it float away.

▪ Step 4: Sow a New Intention

Place your hands in your lap. Breathe.

Say:

"I’m ready to feel life again. In my own time. In my own rhythm."
"I’m allowed to be sad – and still look forward to tomorrow."

Journal Page: Heart Time

A gentle, recurring journaling tool – for handwriting or to include in your workbook.💛 Heart Time – My Daily Check-in

Date: ____________

Place / Mood: ____________1. What do I feel most strongly today?

(e.g. grief, longing, emptiness, hope, peace)

→ _____________________________________________2. What thought has been with me most today?

→ _____________________________________________3. What felt good today – even for a moment?

(e.g. a smile, a tea, a conversation, sunshine on my skin)

→ _____________________________________________4. What would I like to give myself today?

(a break, a hug, forgiveness, courage, compassion...)

→ _____________________________________________5. My sentence for today:

→ Today I am... __________________________________